“These bruuuuuuises make for better conversation”, I sang along while driving home from Starbucks today.
Good song! ('Bruises' by Train)
And it got me thinking…(like always). Can you imagine how boring the world would be if no one had hardships or challenges to talk about? Most of our interesting conversations involve the struggles and triumphs of someone overcoming a problem or challenge.
Think, from coffee with girlfriends to discuss heartbreaks and jerks to co-workers stories about dealing with illness…this is what makes life interesting…and emotional!
And how would we learn anything if others hadn’t gone through similar situations? The majority of our actions are based on lived or learned experiences from others…how would we function in the world without discussing them?
Further, if we didn’t experience the sadness, frustration and anger our problems caused us, would we ever be able to experience and know the feelings of happiness, love and joy?
We’d be on robot mode, not even having feelings. We’d sit at dinner across from another robot, just watching each other chew...fun!
Our problems add richness to our lives. With problems, we’re able to feel the highs and lows of life. This lets us more strongly appreciate the good and provides us a way to connect with others.
Having a problem today or going through a mini-crisis?
Know that eventually it will pass. We’re given the ability to feel both the highs and lows so eventually you will feel good again.
Know that without past problems, crises and experiences, you wouldn’t be where you are today. You wouldn’t know what you know and you wouldn’t have the skills you do. Going through problems is worth it.
Know that having gone through that experience, you’re helping others. Without meaning to, we all affect each other. Someone will learn something from your experience that better equips them for a similar problem.
Know that down the road your bruises are what makes you, you. You’ll look back and it won’t seem as bad and most likely, you’re thankful you experienced it.
Lastly, if you can’t be thankful for the god-awful “why-me?” lows, be thankful for the problems that put us in stitches or bring friends and partners together. Everything happens for a reason, so everything you have today wouldn’t be here without having gone through your problems.
“You’re not alone in how you’ve been…we all got bruises.” - Train